Contrast! What To Do?

I was talking with a dear friend on the phone and she said something that made my jaw drop and my heart sink (I said “sink” - not “sing.”😉) .  I was blind - sided.  Ever felt misunderstood? Like someone just doesn’t get you - and you thought they did? 😳

What do you wanna do when that happens?  You wanna explain!  You wanna dig in!  You wanna state your case!  Stick up for yourself! You wanna say, “No no nooooo that’s not what happened!  That’s not what I was thinking!  That’s not who I am!  How do you not know who I am?”

The problem with this…😳🙃😉🤪 is everyone is allowed to have their beliefs, perspectives and opinions and you (or me) trying to explain who you (or I) am isn’t gonna work.  

Ever.

Why?  Either they get you, or they don’t.  You explaining “who you are” is just more words.  They’re not listening.  And words don’t teach.  Funny I offer so many. 😉

Thankfully, I know a lot about contrast because I lived a lot of it  and got really good at focus because I noticed that what I focused on got bigger.  So I learned to selectively sift.  I have been obsessed with doing this and harnessing the power that creates worlds - the Law of Attraction - to create, deliberately, ever since.  

I know that contrast is just an old vibration contradicting what I want. Contrast is a circumstance to bring me new awareness.  Contrast is a new beginning.  A fresh start.  A turning point.

 Contrast is a launching point and fertilizer for growth. It shows me where I’m giving my power away to a person, place or circumstance.  If I can take the bounce, I can step up to a whole new level of alignment - and freedom.  

To do so, I need to be real clear and real honest with myself and ask, “What is this contrast teaching me about what’s in my vibration?  What did I think, do, say, feel or expect to attract this now?  Can I acknowledge that this is a result of my vibration?”

I remind myself that, “It’s all me.  It’s all me.  It’s all me.  There is no law of assertion.  There is only a Law of Attraction. 

I say to myself, “Oh look, I just created something I don’t prefer.  What do I prefer instead?” And then I am in my power.  I am not giving up my power to a person, place or thing…a circumstance in the now that I would like to be different so that I can “feel better.”  

I get to choose to feel better now, anyway. I get to choose how I feel, no matter what is going on in front of me.  I know that I can’t think my way out of it or “get to the bottom of it.”  There is no bottom!  It will just get bigger and bigger and bigger and bigger!  It’s law.   No exceptions. The more I shout “No!” at something, the bigger it will get.   (You know this.  You’ve lived this. ) 

I know to not go back and explain how I/we got there.  I know to go general since when you get specific things flow faster.  I know to take my attention off the details and give my attention to what makes me feel free.  I know to refocus.  To turn the other cheek.

I say a mantra like, “I release the past and the future and I abide in the ever-present now.”  I breathe and focus on relaxing and allowing, so I can de-escalate the problem and allow the solution. I remind myself that everything is unfolding as it should.    That my Universal Team takes care of everything.

I know to NOT try to bang it out (“solve it”) with action while I am in the contrast.  It’s best to wait until I am feeling good (back in the Vortex) and I have the energy that creates worlds helping me and giving me leverage and ideas.

I know that contrast helps me clarify what I DO want. I give myself permission to stop the struggle and take my hand off the hot stove.  To focus elsewhere on something that feels better so the Universe and my Inner Being can take care of the rest.  I attempt to focus my attention on the positive aspects of something or someone else.  I know that a good feeling thought will lead to another and another and another and another.  I know that the opposite is true as well.

I know that law of attraction is managing my every intention so my overall goal is sustained vibrational alignment:  to hold my vibration no matter what is going on around me.

I know that since my thoughts determine which people come into my life, my life becomes the ever-improving story I tell. I know that I don’t need to change or fix others, I can’t anyway and they don’t want that. 

Contrast teaches me to be more connected to the vibration of my words and so I ask, “Are my words empowering me or limiting me?”

Contrast teaches me to improve the story I tell every day and expect outside of what is happening.  Contrast teaches me to embody the feeling of what I DO want. 

Contrast teaches me to make my choices by my attention to things since whatever I give my attention to I am creating.  

Since I know that I attract by virtue of how I feel NOW, I attempt to just keep telling the better feeling story, stay in my lane and revise and improve the story of my life I tell every day.  

Then…my life becomes the ever-improving story I tell.  I keep asking myself, “What’s the vibration of the story I’m telling?”  I get in the high flying place and stay there.  Therein lies my power.  Just tending to my vibration and Vortex.  Alignment trumps everything.  

I care more about how I feel than about being “right.”  I don’t effort in wanting people to understand. Since things are taking care of themselves (Step 2), it doesn’t matter if they don’t understand. I don’t try to overcome something.  Instead, I focus elsewhere. I know I will never get better at trying to overcome something.  It will only get bigger.

I acknowledge that those circumstances are a result of my vibration, and I am ready for this or it would not be.  I know I can step into the bright light any time I choose.  It’s all me.  Only I can think in my mind.  It’s all about the power of the focus of my mind.

As I focus on what I want with deliberate determination, the Universe sends me what I want and what I’m ready for.

Instead of complaining or blaming others, I take ownership for the outcome I want to experience. 

I know that even though I am in contrast, I didn’t screw up !Nothing has gone wrong.  I just need to choose the receiving mode (Step 3) not the asking mode (Step 1).

I know that with every perception shift I become a brand new person with a brand new vibration.

I know that there’s nothing to change, fix, solve or figure out. I know that ”NO!!” Includes it in my vibration.  I attempt to focus my attention on the positive aspects of others.

So with all these tools, I took the bounce after feeling the suffering. I can’t control what anyone else thinks,  says or does or what they believe.  I can stand on my head in 💯 ways to please someone and if they’re dominantly on the low flying disc 🥏 they will create a reality from there. And it’s their right to do so!  Everyone is allowed their own beliefs and perspectives. 

In the moment since I felt awful I knew I’d disconnected from my Inner Being who will not go there. She was on the high flying disc, calling me back. 

After a good nights sleep, a Prana Power Yoga ✨🙏🏻✨ practice, cardio and meditation… I was back.  Reconnected with my Inner Being.  Loving my friend unconditionally and not needing her or any external circumstance  to give me a good feeling. 

It’s all me. It’s all me. It’s all me. It’s all me. 

And I choose happy. And I choose love. 💕