The ”Business” of Negotiating with Your Ego

Here's one way - as always take what you want and leave the rest - to negotiate with your ego, also called your "lower mind," "lower consciousness, inner critic and/or my favorite description:  the candy shell of the M & M that is you (with your higher mind being the majority of the whole candy.  😊😊)  Remember, this is all you.  YOU are all the voices in your head, no matter where they originated.  So don't give that power away to nobody. 

Also remember that utilizing just your ego (ignoring your higher mind which speaks to you through what?  HIGHEST EXCITEMENT) means you are functioning, quite literally, as a "half wit."  However, it's very important to understand that your ego needs to feel seen, taken care of and safe, so that lower mind won't freak out and attempt to sabotage you because that inner critic is afraid that it will die otherwise.  

I like this way of working with that part of you since it's like business.  It's a business deal haha.  So in this template, use the term "full disclosure" as you converse with that part of you, for as you use this "important business language" to negotiate with your lower mind, it won't feel it's being "tricked" by your higher mind, which is the one who can see from the top of the mountain.

Think of this as a win-win business negotiation with your lower mind, whose one and only job is to observe and keep you focused in the physical.  The urge to love, to create and to connect is all coming from your higher self.  That "drive" is always coming from your inner being, not your inner critic.  These propensities of your authentic self were "installed" because your higher mind (who is eternal) knew that at birth you would forget all you knew.   So that "higher perspective" from the top of the mountain was installed - and how do you know that you are connecting with that part of you?  It feels GOOD.  The lower mind may feel an "emptiness" or a "need" it feels it must be filled by food, money, another person's love, etc.; however, what "it" (you) are really searching for is...you!  Your connection with you - that higher mind - which you may have disconnected from momentarily.  Actually, disconnected is too strong a word as you can never disconnect from your inner being because you ARE your inner being.  You can just choose to not hear your authentic self - and how you will know you are doing so?  You feel BAD.   Your ego amplifies the beliefs you carry which do not belong to you (belief thief! 😊😊 ) which feel HEAVY...like baggage.  Anything and I mean anything that feels heavy IS NOT YOURS. It does not belong to you.  Your inner critic can forget that it is not the only one in charge and that there exists an authentic self (the main part of the M&M that is you) so it starts to build up fear and resistance and feels the BURDEN on its shoulders and starts to take on this job (of your higher mind) when it was never its job.  And recall, it is not equipped to DO this job.  It is not trained and does not have the capacity to do this job.  It has not ever created anything.  NOT ONCE! That is ALL your higher mind.  Remember?  It's ONLY JOB is to observe.  So that lower mind of yours starts to break down, feel very heavy and tired and can become extremely dense and crystalized and hard to expand out.  This translates into the feelings of:  not good enough, unworthy, stuck and powerless, and life is too hard so I want to leave.

Your inner critic, as it takes on these burdens, feels fear so will it will choose fear - and survival - every time. It will tell you that you will DIE if you choose the door to the light.  That it is just not possible so don't even try.   Although it will choose survival and fear...even from this deep degree of darkness and fear from ego, you will ALWAYS still feel the tug form your authentic self.  It is always there whispering, gesturing, supporting, telling you softly that there is no need for stress and struggle. 

Your inner critic has been reinforced from generation to generation; however, the quiet desire to seek this light within yourself has also been there all along. There is and always has been a very capable you with whom you deserve to reconnect - and just drop the heavy baggage now.  So back to business 😊😊, you can simply and sincerely tell your lower mind that it is safe and it won't die when your authentic self does its job, the job for which it was designed.  You can tell your inner critic, full disclosure, "Dude, you will be allowed to do your job - the job for which you are trained and of which you are capable."  You can tell it kindly and clearly that it is not designed to be capable of knowing how something will happen. It is only designed and capable of knowing how something DID happen.  So it will forever more keep going back to the past and being a historian and a regurgitator.  For your ego is not at top of mountain like your authentic self.  And that lower mind is designed to know how it's happening and how it has happened.  But, bless its heart, it thought it was supposed to figure it out, so it flails around and forces and pushes and suffers attempting to figure it out where it needs to be. So the business deal is asking it to please allow the higher mind to take care of it - to do its job.   For the lower mind will always tell you the longest, most difficult route and you now understand this (what you knew all along but had forgotten) and so you are choosing NOW to allow all the good with ease.  

Now you can give that sweet inner critic a snack and tuck that ego in the back seat in a soft blanket with a green juice and tell him/her/them that we're now going to allow your higher mind to drive and we're going to trust the free flow that is the foundation of all creation.  

As your lower mind is munching her/his/their snack and sipping that yummy green juice in the comfort of a snuggly blanket, tell her/him/them a story (moving from business deal to comforting story time): 

Once upon a time, we together decided to take a fun journey to learn to be more of ourself.  We wanted an adventure in the physical to become more authentically who we really are, so for fun, we got in queue to go to this magical and intense physical place called Earth school.  All the rage!  We lined up and poof!  We were born into a little body and we forgot everything.  Why?  For the fun of it!  To remember again as we moved along.  Our imagination was given to us as a pipeline to and from our higher mind, which sees from the top of the mountain the best route for us to follow.  Because we are a team!  (You are telling that candy shell ego in the back seat).  And you are safe and all is well.  

So that ego is sassy from the back seat and says that he/she/they think that the imagination is a waste of time and she/he/they then attempt to use her/his/their biggest "gun" - fear - to say imagination is stupid.   And you, your authentic self, smiles calmly and with equanimity says, "Awwww, sweet ego, it's all right.  You're fine.  It's fine.  Everything is fine.  You may choose to feel fear because you have free will and choice and/but I do not resonate with that and so I choose to know that all is well and follow my excitement and tune into all that is and the pure love that I - and we - are. 

How is your snack?"  😊😊 

The end.

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